How do you grieve? Why dictate how others should?

Jennifer Okaima Piette
2 min readSep 2


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People grieve as they find most understandable to their soul.

  • Some people loose a loved one and go insane. As in, madness.
  • Some live in shock while they wonder if they are next in line.
  • Some disassociate without meaning to.
  • Some wail and wail when they hear the news, pour ashes on their head, wail some more for a few hours, and that’s it.
  • Some mourn silently for years unending.
  • Some trap themselves in the “what ifs” and “could haves”.
  • Some carry memories of the person as a burden in their heart until their own demise.
  • Some hope for a reincarnation free of vengeance.
  • Some learn from the dead and change their own life/lifestyle.
  • Some give thanks for the gift of life and pray for the dead.

I once heard people complain that a widow did not shed enough tears when she lost her husband. That was what concerned them in the moment.

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Welcome those who want to measure the length and color of your tears 😭 And whatever else you do, do not let the world dictate how you mourn and honor the memory of your beloved.

May your choices lead to life and healing ❤️‍🩹🙏🏾

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Jennifer Okaima Piette

Communications, Media, & Advocacy Expert|nee Jennifer Ehidiamen| Innately curious| Founder: @rural_reporters| #ThereIsaGod | Alum. @columbiajourn & @NIJLagos